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Posted By: Jason MorningstarSo the Embassy Suites gathering of the clan has a couple of facets that are different and noteworthy in my mind:
Posted By: Saint&SinnerWhat about moving the Games On Demand message board over to Embassy Suites each day (if this wouldn't be too much trouble). That way people could sign up and manage their games at where ever people are doing Play Now.
Posted By: Jason MorningstarNo one can stop you from playing with your friends. Nobody wants to. But what happened with Rich/Orklord up there? Is there something we can do to make sure that does not happen? I think that's what this thread is a reaction to.
Posted By: Jason MorningstarI like the idea of finding a way to include people and increase social interaction, so the guy who doesn't really know anybody or is shy gets to meet enough folks that there's a little network going. Maybe we need "natural born murder police" buttons.
Posted By: Ben LehmanSo what I'm saying, here, publicly, is "no, that's not how the GenCon evening play scene should work. It should work in an environment of peers, where we treat each other like civilized human beings and use our words to ask for things nicely."
That's a change, it's a huge change, and it's a needed one.
Posted By: Ben LehmanTake a night out of your con to only play with people you've never played with before.
In some families, you grow up with the expectation that it's OK to ask for anything at all, but you gotta realize you might get no for an answer. This is Ask Culture.
In Guess Culture, you avoid putting a request into words unless you're pretty sure the answer will be yes. Guess Culture depends on a tight net of shared expectations. A key skill is putting out delicate feelers. If you do this with enough subtlety, you won't even have to make the request directly; you'll get an offer. Even then, the offer may be genuine or pro forma; it takes yet more skill and delicacy to discern whether you should accept.
All kinds of problems spring up around the edges. If you're a Guess Culture person ... then unwelcome requests from Ask Culture people seem presumptuous and out of line, and you're likely to feel angry, uncomfortable, and manipulated.
If you're an Ask Culture person, Guess Culture behavior can seem incomprehensible, inconsistent, and rife with passive aggression.
Thing is, Guess behaviors only work among a subset of other Guess people -- ones who share a fairly specific set of expectations and signalling techniques. The farther you get from your own family and friends and subculture, the more you'll have to embrace Ask behavior. Otherwise you'll spend your life in a cloud of mild outrage at (pace Moomin fans) the Cluelessness of Everyone. -- posted by tangerine at 11:38 PM PST on January 16
Posted By: Jason MorningstarIf somebody has the passport they probably want to play these games, so telling them where and how is just being friendly.
Posted By: Jason MorningstarJohn, I'm with you. I don't think adding formality is going to help, but some prep work around the idea of making games more open, welcoming, and easy to find seems well spent.
Posted By: Robert BohlWhat about a flag or something
Jesus fuck, Morningstar and others.
Embassy Suites isn't part of the con space. It's a hotel where some people stay, and they kindly tolerate the mad rowdiness of the indie games people during GenCon out of their own business acumen and kindness - but it's not part of the con.
Adding it to the passport, advertising, whatever, putting it on paper, makes it a formal part of the con, whether you've cleared it with the organisers of the con and the owners of the space or not.
It's not a public thing and it shouldn't be, because that's not an appropriate way for us to use that space. It is essentially that "private space for you to play with your friends" that you're telling everyone to get, when in fact we already have one and you're trying to turn it into something it isn't.
If you want a space for unstructured play to emerge for, like, internet goofs that you don't know personally, isn't that the whole purpose behind Games On Demand? Use it.
Rob, if you consider what you're doing to be promoting it, then I consider what you're doing to be inappropriate.
I'm pretty sure "for your goals X is the wrong thing to do, do this other thing Y that already exists for the purpose you want," doesn't really constitute a promotion of X.
Last year I managed to get exactly zero demos from the Forge
What? How? I mean, did you sneak in after hours when nobody was at the booth or something?
Posted By: Neil Gow
Tell them to go away?
Ignore them?
Avoid eye contact?
Slink off to a corner or your room?
Posted By: ValamirI'm sorry if this sounds selfish...but this is OUR time to game.
Posted By: Jason MorningstarPointing people to where the games are played doesn't seem like a huge transgression.
Posted By: Jason MorningstarAs far as I know, Games on Demand isn't running all night. Correct me if I'm wrong. Is it actually running all night? That'd be great!
Posted By: Neil GowValamir's description - if thats the case, then I hold my hands up and say 'cool beans'. I never realised thats what it was.
If anything, on the passport/equivalent, I'd like write in fine print somewhere at the bottom that "sometimes some folks can be found around the ES lobby at night: Say hi and maybe play!"
I don't know when GoD is running. It probably should run all night, but I'm not the guy to ask.
Personally, I'm of the opinion that if you think something might be transgressive, and you're living in someone's hospitality and not your own space, you shouldn't do it; it's more important to be a good guest. I see that you're thinking of yourself as a host, trying to set up a welcoming atmosphere, but that's not what you are in this situation. If you formally set up an event and define a space and own that space, that's one thing, and that's a good course of action, but putting up advertisements that make it appear that you own a place, when in fact you are a guest in that hotel, is not a thing that you should do.
Is the passport an official thing, or is it a marketing tool thrown together by a few booths?
Uh, what? This is like, "Is a banana a thing you can eat, or is it a fruit?" If it's a thing that's put together by a couple of booths that own space in the convention, then that implies that it's talking about space, topics, events, whatever, that are owned by those booths. It's a thing that looks official; the way you, as a person who saw it come together, perceive it, doesn't matter. It matters how a random congoer will see it, and if that random congoer gets a piece of advertising swag from a booth and it says, "Come play games with us at ES!" then they will think, "Oh, there's a GenCon event at ES in the evening! Cool!"
I mean, seriously. Listen to Ben. He is a smart guy who is saying a thing that makes sense. If you want to play with people, ask them to play. You've got the social skills to communicate to people, "I'm maybe open to joining some people to play in the evening." Use your words instead of hiding behind gamer-systems, and you'll be doing everyone a favor.
Furthermore, being too welcoming is dangerous, again 'cause you're running on someone else's hospitality. If you're not selective about how you use that space, who you invite in, and how you behave there, you might lose that space, and you might take that space away from everyone.
Don't do that.
Posted By: shreyasbeing too welcoming is dangerous